Why Do People Cheat? Guide To Weeding Out The Wrong Partner

Why do people cheat? Being cheated on is probably one of the worst feelings people can feel in a relationship.

I remember finding myself in a very troublesome relationship. The passion was there, but many things went as wrong as they could.

My then-partner ended up hitting up other girls to cheat on me because he thought I was sleeping around with my bros. (dude friends). My bros are my homies; I would never do such a thing. When I commit to a relationship, I commit 100%!

This was the second time he broke up with me, and my silly ass said yes when he wanted to get back together with me. This relationship was full-on toxic and emotionally destabilizing.

After getting back together, not much passed until he started emotionally cheating with his now-wife and eventually dumped me in the coldest and cruelest ways I’ve experienced.

The rest of the relationship’s toxicity is good for another post, not this one. I’ll tell you more about it later. 🙂

These kinds of relationships can drag and make someone feel stuck instead of moving forward. I’ve seen this in my own life.

When I was in a mentally and emotionally draining relationship, I realized the person was bringing out the worst in me. I felt empty, used, and stuck in a cycle. It wasn’t easy, but I had to choose to surround myself with supportive people and walk away.

Leaving felt difficult, but it gave me the energy to take a new path, a path worth keeping. I know many people are facing this issue, and I am writing this post to guide you on how to weed out the wrong partner from your life.

Now, let’s discuss a few reasons why people cheat.

Sometimes, people stop feeling in love when the early excitement goes away. The butterflies and happy moments from the beginning don’t last forever. After some time, your partner might notice they don’t feel as strongly about you anymore, and their interest fades.

A good relationship needs more than just fun; it requires trust and friendship. But if your partner starts looking for new excitement because they miss the feeling of new love, they might cheat. If they’re not willing to build a strong, long-lasting bond, it’s a sign you should weed them out of your life.

If your partner isn’t fulfilling your needs, it can lead to frustration and distance in the relationship. Whether it’s emotional support or physical intimacy, feeling like your needs are ignored can make the relationship feel empty.

When your partner doesn’t give you the time, attention, or closeness you deserve, it’s natural to feel unhappy. If they continuously fail to meet your needs, it might push you to look for that connection elsewhere. Rather than staying in a relationship where you’re unfulfilled, it’s important to weed out a partner who isn’t giving you what you need to feel happy and supported.

If your partner has hurt you or broken your trust, it’s natural to feel angry or want revenge. Sometimes, people want to end a relationship because they are upset and want to make their partner feel the same pain. This happens when emotions are strong, and they feel ignored, unloved, or deeply frustrated.

Holding onto anger or seeking revenge indicates the relationship is unhealthy. Instead of solving problems, the desire for payback can lead to more hurt. If your partner causes you to feel this way, it's a good reason to consider whether this relationship is right for you or not.

Some partners cheat simply because they can’t handle commitment. They don’t want anything serious and avoid thinking about a long-term future together.

This fear of commitment often leads them to cheat instead of working through their issues. They might enjoy being in a relationship but don’t want the responsibility that comes with it. If your partner can’t fully commit and prefers to keep things casual, it’s a clear sign they’re not right for you. It’s time to weed out someone who doesn’t take the relationship seriously.

Sometimes, your partner might not fulfill your sexual desires because they are stressed, busy with work, or dealing with other issues. When this happens, you may feel disconnected and unsatisfied in the relationship.

If your partner can’t find a balance between their problems and keeping the relationship intimate, it’s a strong reason to weed them out and find someone who can fully meet your needs.

For many people, it’s hard to break free from a toxic relationship because they feel trapped. Below are a few more reasons.

When someone is financially dependent on their partner, it becomes even harder to leave. They worry about how they will care for themselves or where they will live if they leave the relationship.

People in abusive relationships often feel trapped because of emotional or financial threats from their partner. The victim may be afraid to leave due to the fear of harm or losing their partner. The partner may be manipulative or even physically hurtful, making it very hard to walk away.

Even in a toxic relationship, some feelings of love may remain. This makes it tough for the victim to leave because they might still hope things will get better or feel attached to the love they once had.

Many people in toxic relationships feel ashamed to tell others about their situation. They may try to hide it from friends and family, feeling too embarrassed to ask for help. Some might even turn to drugs or alcohol to cope, making the situation even worse.

Also Read: 20 Habits of Happy Couples

Ending a toxic relationship with a wrong partner can feel hard, but the sooner you decide to leave, the better it will be for you. The longer you stay, the more complicated it becomes. Let’s discuss how you can weed out your partner from your life in detail.

Before you leave a toxic relationship, make a plan. Gather your important possessions, find a safe place to stay, and think carefully about how you’ll end things. Having a plan makes leaving much easier and helps you feel more prepared.

Work on becoming financially independent, especially if you depend on your partner for your financial needs. Focus on finding a job or getting job training. Even a part-time job can help you start your path to freedom. The sooner you start, the faster you can leave the bad relationship behind.

Also Read: Tips to Strengthen Your Relationships

Tell a trusted friend or family member about your plan. Keeping secrets can make things harder, so it’s important to let someone know what’s going on. If you feel threatened, let the authorities know, too, so you have help if needed.

Getting help from professionals can make the process of leaving easier. Counsellors, support groups, and even a trusted friend can help guide you through the steps. They can give you advice and make sure you have the right support as you work through your issues and recover from the relationship.

Once you decide to weed out your toxic partner, stop communicating with them. However, this avoids any emotional manipulation or blackmail. If you have children, only talk about co-parenting and keep all other conversations to a minimum.

After leaving, take care of your mental health. Give yourself time to heal by starting a new hobby, working on a project, or taking a trip. Focus on building your self-esteem and getting ready for a better life.

Weeding out a wrong partner is hard, especially once you have loved them wholeheartedly, but it’s a brave and important step toward a happy life. Staying in an unhealthy situation brings only harm and negativity, making you feel trapped. You deserve to be happy and live a good life.

It might feel tough initially, but you will find more comfort and peace once you start working on yourself. Many people who leave toxic relationships can finally enjoy life and feel true joy. Getting rid of the negativity opens the door to a better future.

Let me know in the comments below if this blog was helpful for you. What do you think? Why do people cheat?

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